Thursday, February 27, 2020

Courage 2 ways

"Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen."

Winston Churchill


I was looking for a quote about Standing tall, as in having the courage to stand up for what you believe no matter how unpopular it is. When I read this quote from Winston Churchill I realized it goes deeper. Because our beliefs can get us stuck ... possibly because when we believe strongly we are right our ego grabs onto that and we end up defending our belief so much we stop hearing anything but our own voice and we get a little stubborn. (ha ha; I may have a little personal experience of doing this)

Sometimes Standing tall is more than being convinced that our belief it the absolute right place to stand. I think that we could do some deep digging on what we are standing tall about ... what is underneath it?? And what are the realities of those who are standing tall in opposition to us?? Is it possible that somewhere underneath all the posturing and words, the arguments and illustrations we use to affirm what we are convinced is right there are places where we are all have the same fears? We talk over each other, wouldn't it serve more to talk with each other? Does one side always have to be wrong for the other side to be right?

Maybe we could take a break from having to 'be right' and stand tall for listening deeply and start from there to work on solutions. 

Cheers
Jeanne





Thursday, February 20, 2020

Rambling today

The Status Quo can be an opportunity if every time we feel out of our comfort zone we look at our assumptions and what we believe to be the "way things are" and use our imaginations to see other ways things can be.
Like Harry Potter and other heroes! We can be ordinary people and still use our brain and imagination to not live an ordinary life. A life where we don't have to walk a rigid line and do what everyone else does and be and dress and talk like everyone else!! Wow, scary because would our friends still like us? would we still have job or money security?? would we become outcast, everyone laugh at us? will we be humiliated because the rest of our world thinks we are stupid?? is that okay?? How is it not okay?? Because every day that I live with these niggles in my head that I'm part of the sickness/epidemic and not part of the cure. Until I take action I am one of those people who is denying vaccinations and fighting tooth and nail to hang on to my old beliefs, comfort level because "I" will be okay... NOT okay "I" am withering more day by day into a shrivelled being inside a shell that is going through the motions of living.
I would rather be HURT i would rather be cold and in pain and die than keep shrivelling!!
Jump out of the pot into the fire before you boil little frog... the only hope is that we can leap through the heat and into a New World that we have not imagined or experienced before

"New Low" by Sarah Harmer
Couldn't find those lyrics yet ... being released tomorrow
But here are lyrics for
New Loneliness by Sarah Harmer
There is just one apple on the tree
It isn't like I hoped it'd be
Yesterday when there was still you
I looked and I swear that I saw two
Maybe a wandering white-tailed deer
Came in the night to make it even more clear
And left me just one, a Spartan no less
To remind me of my new loneliness
There is just one oar leaning against the wall
What of our plans for paddles in the Fall?
With the reeds grown high in a winding maze
We were to follow old waterways
Maybe a hovering dragonfly
Will rest on a cattail and wonder why
There is no clamoring at the shore
Of two in a canoe with each an oar
There is just one pillow on the bed
Where a solitary someone lays her head
Source: Musixmatch

Status Quo = Problem

"If people are telling you that they don't believe what you're doing, that means you're doing something out of their comfort zone. And generally, people don't want to be taken out of their comfort zone because it's outside of the status quo."
Whitney Wolfe Herd

I wonder about confrontation and how it can be resolved when all parties are positive that their's is the RIGHT way. What if both parties could step back and try to understand from the other person's perspective what and why they are doing what they are doing and the impact what each has on the other with respect that there is no absolute right and wrong and the stronger we defend the 'status quo' the more we put ourselves and our society in a box and defend what we don't like as well as what we do like. 
I think we need to think very deeply about how the 'status quo' and our assumptions are keeping us in a mental cage.
Happy Thursday:-)
Jeanne

"I'd rather be overly ambitious than completely complacent," said Wolfe Herd this fall. "I think that we all have a choice with how we spend the hours of our day."  

This is an interesting article about an inspirational person, check out the whole story at:

Bumble founder Whitney Wolfe Herd is used to bucking traditions.
When she launched the female-focused dating app in 2014, which requires women searching for heterosexual matches to make the first move, some were skeptical it would take off. But Wolfe Herd's vision — that the app actually would empower women to make their own choices, rather than burden them with it — caught on. Bumble has become a household name and has grown to include services beyond dating, including professional networking and finding new friends.
Last year, Wolfe Herd made a strategic decision to push Bumble into India, a risky move given that casual dating is a relatively new and urban phenomenon and that India has one of the highest rates of sexual violence in the world. Still, Wolfe Herd didn't shy away.
Whitney Wolfe Herd founded Bumble, a dating app where women make the first move in 2014. Now, she's CEO of the parent company MagicLab, which is valued at $3 billion and includes four apps: Bumble, Badoo, Chappy and Lumen. (Dina Litovsky for CNN)
Whitney Wolfe Herd founded Bumble, a dating app where women make the first move in 2014. Now, she's CEO of the parent company MagicLab, which is valued at $3 billion and includes four apps: Bumble, Badoo, Chappy and Lumen. (Dina Litovsky for CNN)
"We need to go where we're needed the most," Wolfe Herd said in an interview with CNN Business in September. "The most traditional, the most misogynistic mindsets globally — those markets for us are completely wide-open prairies," she said, referring to the decision to launch in India. "Just because something is not as progressive as another place in the world doesn't mean there's not a desire for that."
Now, Wolfe Herd is preparing for one of her biggest challenges yet: Taking over the CEO seat of Bumble's parent company MagicLab four months after former owner Andrey Andreev was accused of racism and sexism, allegations that he has denied. Investment firm Blackstone bought the company from the Russian billionaire last month, in a deal that valued it at $3 billion.
    At just 30, Wolfe Herd sits at the helm of a dating empire that claims it has more than 500 million global users across its four apps: Bumble, Badoo, Chappy and Lumen. When she returns from maternity leave in the spring after having her first baby, she will continue forging ahead with Bumble's international expansion. On a broader scale, she plans to use her platform to advocate for legislation outlawing digital sexual harassment both domestically and internationally. On top of this, she'll also have to address the findings of a still-ongoing investigation into the culture at Badoo.

    An ongoing investigation

    Andreev and Wolfe Herd had been business partners since Bumble launched in 2014 in Austin, Texas. Wolfe Herd, who started her career at Tinder, initially wanted to create a women-focused social network; Andreev suggested creating a dating app with a similar vision. His company, Badoo, helped provide the infrastructure, and he became her primary backer.
    The most traditional, the most misogynistic mindsets globally — those markets for us are completely wide-open prairies."
    WHITNEY WOLFE HERD, CEO OF MAGICLAB
    In July, Forbes reported on allegations of a sexist and toxic culture at Badoo headquarters in London, citing interviews with 13 former employees. The report included claims — some of which date back to 2011 and 2012 — that Andreev made racist and sexist comments to staffers, as well as broader claims of a toxic work environment.
    The company initially slammed the report, but two days later, Andreev issued a statement at the time saying he was "shocked and saddened by the allegations," though he maintained that "many of the accusations are inaccurate."
    The allegations immediately put Wolfe Herd in a difficult spot. Andreev had been a longtime mentor and friend, but the allegations against him were serious and went against everything Bumble stood for. Would she stand by him? In the initial Forbes article, she did: She was described as standing "firmly behind" Andreev, who she said was "my family and one of my best friends."
    Wolfe Herd issued a statement after the article came out, saying she was "mortified by the allegations," and that she "learned of the majority of these allegations at the same time as the public." She added that although she had "never seen or heard" any of the behavior in question, "I would never challenge someone's feelings or experiences."
    Wolfe Herd is taking over the CEO seat of Bumble's parent company MagicLab after former owner Andrey Andreev (left) was accused of racism and sexism. An internal investigation is ongoing. (MagicLab Press Kit)
    Wolfe Herd is taking over the CEO seat of Bumble's parent company MagicLab after former owner Andrey Andreev (left) was accused of racism and sexism. An internal investigation is ongoing. (MagicLab Press Kit)
    Badoo hired a firm to conduct an outside investigation into the allegations in the Forbes article and committed to making those findings public and implementing the recommendations. The investigation is ongoing, but Andreev sold his majority stake in the company as part of the Blackstone deal in November.

    Taking leaps of faith in India

    Just a few months before Bumble launched in India last year, the Thomson Reuters Foundation surveyed more than 500 experts on women's issues, and concluded that India was the most dangerous country in the world for women due to factors like sexual violence against women and cultural traditions impacting women's safety. Wolfe Herd, however, saw an opportunity to empower women in the country. If successful, it would be a huge business win.
      While other US-based dating apps already existed in the region, including Tinder, Hinge and OkCupid, there was arguably more at stake for Bumble. The company's differentiating factor lies in empowering women to initiate contact. Would Bumble be putting its female users at risk?
      Bumble took new, local safety precautions, like the ability for women to only display a first initial, rather than a full name, in addition to global features such as photo verification.
      Wolfe Herd said the first initial feature is only available for women on the platform. "We need to hold people accountable. The less anonymity given to the other side of the table is actually a great way to reduce friction, harassment and abuse," she said.
      The Indian version of the app is available in both Hindi and Hinglish — a hybrid between Hindi and English that's popular — on iOS and Android.
      Bumble leaned on support from actress Priyanka Chopra, who was named an adviser and investor in the startup last October, and Chopra's manager, Anjula Acharia, also a Bumble investor and adviser, who has a history of helping artists like Lady Gaga launch in the country.

      Friday, February 14, 2020

      Live first - then think


      “We do not think ourselves into new ways of living, we live ourselves into new ways of thinking.”
      Richard Rohr  

      I've been thinking about this and getting bogged down trying to write something so this is my last try...
      I have faith that it is okay to not know a thing. Knowing gives the ego something to cling to and it get so loud defending what it knows that it can't hear anything else. Where I am most emphatic that I am right is where I can learn the most. And living is not about knowing, it is about learning and experiencing. That's what I want it to be about for me anyways... open to wonder, love and adventure
      Cheers
      Jeanne

      Richard Rohr
      Richard Rohr, O.F.M. (born 1943) is an American Franciscan friar ordained to the priesthood in the Roman Catholic Church in 1970. He is an known inspirational speaker and has published numerous recorded talks and books, including The Divine Dance: The Trinity and Your Transformation (with Mike Morrell), Yes, And...: Daily Meditations, Immortal Diamond: The Search for Our True Self, Falling Upward: A Spirituality for the Two Halves of Life, The Naked Now: Learning to See as the Mystics See, and Eager to Love: The Alternative Way of Francis of Assisi.  

      The Shit

      "If you wanna fly, you got to give up the shit that weighs you down," 
      Toni Morrison wrote in her novel Song of Solomon

      Happy Today ... now is always a good time to let go of the shit but it ain't always easy, sometimes we cling to the shit and sometimes it clings to us.
      So live a little more, love a little more, imagine a little more, dance a little more, sing a little more, create a little more, walk a little more, sleep a little more, cook a little more, read a little more, be goofier and shake it up:-)... or do something you are avoiding...or do something you are afraid to do... or take a really cold shower...
      or 
      ...  sit in the shit, wallow in it, feel it oozing all around you, nothing is wrong with the shit itself, but we need to be aware of how much it is sticking ... 
      Cheers
      Jeanne


      Toni Morrision


      The 100 best novels: No 89 – Song of Solomon by Toni Morrison (1977)

      The novel with which the Nobel prize-winning author established her name is a kaleidoscopic evocation of the African-American experience in the 20th century


      I first read Toni Morrison in 1977 when a proof copy of her novel, Song of Solomon, was on offer to the then-independent publisher, Chatto & Windus, for whom I was working as a young editor. Part of my background reading for this, her third book, involved discovering, and falling in love with, her debut, The Bluest Eye (1970), and its successor, Sula (1973). Since then, I have followed most of Morrison’s subsequent fiction, notably Beloved and Jazz, but I remain a diehard fan of the novel that established her name. From 1977 on, she only grew in stature as a contemporary writer of extraordinary power and vision, ultimately becoming, in 1993, the first African-American woman to win the Nobel prize for literature.

      Song of Solomon blazed that trail. It was the first book by a black American woman writer to be chosen as a main selection of the all-powerful Book of the Month Club, a recognition unknown to the black community since Richard Wright’s Native Son (1940).

      Song of Solomon takes off, and finally comes back to earth, with an exhilarating leap of danger. The idea of “fly” and “flight” (as an escape, or challenge) runs through the story of Macon “Milkman” Dead III, who gets his nickname from being breastfed into childhood by his dominant mother.

      “Who am I ?” is a central premise of many classic novels in this series, including David Copperfield (No 15) and The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn (No 23). From the arresting first scene of an insurance agent’s suicidal leap, to the closing pages, when Milkman hurls himself into the air against his best friend and nemesis, Guitar, the novel traces Milkman’s coming of age as an African American in search of a better understanding of his heritage. To achieve this, in a telling reversal of traditional black migration, Milkman makes his way to the warm and nurturing south from the frozen and alienating north.

      The novel is partly set in an unspecified Michigan town, and the unfolding story, replete with buried treasure, violent deaths and slavery tales, moves steadily south to Pennsylvania, where Milkman’s grandfather had died, and finally to Shalimar in Virginia, the home of his slave ancestors. In the words of the song that Milkman sings:

      Solomon done fly, Solomon done gone
      Solomon went across the sky, Solomon gone home.

      Where, in the first and northern half of the novel, Milkman battles his origins, in the south he embraces them, and by the end is at one with his roots.

      Song of Solomon is full of characters, especially Milkman’s mysterious sister, Pilate, whose symbolic lives play an important role in the weaving of Morrison’s narrative. The story loops and swoops, in its evocation of the black American experience in the 20th century, expressing a complex literary surface in a musical and often poetic language that’s infused with the rhythms of African American speech and song. Morrison has acknowledged that Song of Solomon liberated her from traditional models in her writing. In a style she would perfect in novels such as Beloved, Morrison conjures her tale from many voices and stories. The overall effect is a kaleidoscope of many gorgeous colours and patterns, evocative of memory and history, and actualised through the compelling figure of Macon Dead, one of the great characters of contemporary American fiction.