Smile

 "It was only a sunny smile,

and little it cost in the giving,

But like morning light 

It scattered the night

and made the day worth living."

F. Scott Fitzgerald

Cheers

Jeanne

Language

 “I remember the words of Bill Tall Bull, a Cheyenne elder. As a young person, I spoke to him with a heavy heart, lamenting that I had no native language with which to speak to the plants and the places that I love. “They love to hear the old language,” he said, “it’s true.” “But,” he said, with fingers on his lips, “You don’t have to speak it here.” “If you speak it here,” he said, patting his chest, “They will hear you.”

Robin Wall Kimmerer, Braiding Sweetgrass: Indigenous Wisdom, Scientific Knowledge and the Teachings of Plants

Thoughts: 

There is a language our hearts know

that is heard in a world we can only know when we let go of what we think we know

Letting go - April 18th

“Success does not lie in sticking to things. It lies in picking the right thing to stick to and quitting the rest.”

Annie Duke, Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away

Thoughts:

The decision is the difficult part. It seems that the more I focus on what I am giving up the more I want to keep it. If I have to make a decision about giving up something I love, or think is something I should do, or something that will take me in the direction of my dreams, because to keep going is no longer is wise, it feels like I'm giving up on a part of me and that not having or doing whatever it was will leave an empty, unfillable space inside. But the more decisions I make to moderate or eliminate things that I'm clinging to because of the fear of what letting go will mean to my life the more focus I can give to where I'm going and how to be who I want to be.

“In large part, we are what we do, and our identity is closely connected with whatever we’re focused on, including our careers, relationships, projects, and hobbies. When we quit any of those things, we have to deal with the prospect of quitting part of our identity. And that is painful.”

Annie Duke, Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away 

The Creative Act - April 4th & 11th 2024

 

April 4th quote

"Discipline and freedom seem like opposites. In reality they are partners. 

Discipline is not a lack of freedom, it is a harmonious relationship with time."

From: The Creative Act by Rick Rubin 

April 11th quote

"Listening opens possibilities. It allows you to see a bigger world. Many of our beliefs were learned before we had a choice in what we were taught. Some of them might go back generations and may no longer apply. Some many never have applied.

Listening, then, is not just awareness. It is freedom from accepted limitations."

Rick Rubin from The Creative Act: A Way of Being

Shy

 

Warrior March 14th

  "A warrior is not a person that carries a gun. The biggest war you ever go through is right between your own ears. It's in your mind. We're all going through a war in our mind, and we have to callous our mind to fight that war and to win that war."

David Goggins
Author of: "Can't Hurt Me" and "Never Finished"

Puff

 

Astronaut View - March 21st

 “My optimism and confidence come not from feeling I'm luckier than other mortals, and they sure don't come from visualizing victory. They're the result of a lifetime spent visualizing defeat and figuring out how to prevent it.

Like most astronauts, I'm pretty sure that I can deal with what life throws at me because I've thought about what to do if things go wrong, as well as right. That's the power of negative thinking.”
Chris Hadfield, An Astronaut's Guide to Life on Earth

Feeling Love

 

Complexity March 28th

 "Sometimes, I am also identified as a civil rights leader or a human rights activist. I would also like to be thought of as a complex, three-dimensional, flesh-and-blood human being with a rich storehouse of experiences, much like everyone else, yet unique in my own way, much like everyone else."

Coretta Scott King

Thoughts:
We are all complex and unique in our own ways, and every one of us would like to be seen that way and respected for it.

... and if we can't understand someone else and what they do and say, we could try to remember that they, as we, are a product of experience

And if we listen, we may learn something that will help us understand

... and if we don't listen, we will maintain our ignorance

"One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say."
Bryant H. McGill

"The belief that one's own view of reality is the only reality is the most dangerous of all delusions."
Paul Watzlawick

Modify, modify, modify - February 15th

 "The only thing that permits human beings to collaborate with one another in a truly open-ended way is their willingness to have their beliefs modified by new facts. Only openness to evidence and argument will secure a common world for us."

Sam Harris

Shark attacks - Feb 22nd

 “If you see lots of shark attacks in the news, you think, 'Gosh, sharks are out of control.' What you should think is 'Gosh, the news loves to cover shark attacks.”

David McRaney, You Are Not So Smart

“The more pessimistic your explanatory style, the easier it is to slip into learned helplessness.”
David McRaney, You Are Not So Smart

Extraordinary Generosity- February 29th

 “The forest itself is part of much larger cycles, the building of soil and migration of species and circulation of oceans. The source of clean air and pure water and good food. There is a necessary wisdom in the give-and-take of nature—its quiet agreements and search for balance. There is an extraordinary generosity.”

Suzanne Simard, Finding the Mother Tree: Discovering the Wisdom of the Forest

Thoughts: How beautiful is Extraordinary Generosity

Self Esteem - March 7th

 "There is overwhelming evidence that the higher the level of self-esteem, the more likely one will be to treat others with respect, kindness, and generosity"

Nathaniel Branden

Thoughts: to cultivate self-esteem is an act of generosity to ourselves and others. When we accept that we are deserving of our own respect and kindness we can give and receive with acceptance and grace.

Grace recognizes that it is an act of generosity to receive with gratitude as much as it is to give without expecting gratitude. A state where cultivating self-esteem is what allows us to be selfless in the most natural way. 

"Self-esteem is a powerful force within each of us... Self-esteem is the experience that we are appropriate to life and to the requirements of life."
Nathaniel Branden

Note: this musing was inspired by my friend Davee. An inspiring, generous and kind soul whom I respect! Thank you Davee for the gift of this time at Sun Peaks. 

January 4th 2024 - Including Booklist

"A person is a point of view. Every person you meet is a creative artist who takes the events of life and, over time, creates a very personal way of seeing the world."

David Brooks from his book: How to Know a Person

Thoughts: How could this not be so?? We can only interpret what we see from our own experience, what we are taught, what we put our attention on, what we observe and what we read. I think one of the biggest impacts to expanding our point of view comes from reading; reading anything that is beyond our experience and exposes us to other peoples experiences and perspectives.

Reading always seemed to me to be a leisure activity. In 2024 I am going to rewrite this 66 year old perspective and make reading a priority activity!

"People don't see the world with their eyes; they see it with their entire life."

"Each person actively constructs their own perception of reality."

David Brooks

I found this booklist of "Books everyone should read at least once" (from Katie Couric Wake-Up Call newsletter)

I've read about a quarter of the books on it already and agree with them being on this list so I'm adding the entire list to the bookclub books and random recommended reads from friends and other sources.

I do plan to do other things occasionally, but I am looking forward to changing my perspective

1. Heartwood: The art of living with the End in Mind by Barbara Becker

2. The Beauty of Dusk: On Vision Lost and Found by Frank Bruni

3. All the Light we Cannot See by Anthony Doerr 

4. I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings by Maya Angelou 

5. The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

6. Pachinko by Min Jin Lee

7. Jesus Land by Julia Scheeres

8. After This: When Life is Over, Where do we Go? By Claire Bidwell Smith

9. The Kitchen House by Kathleen Grissom

10. We Should Not be Friends: The Story of a Friendship by Will Schwalbe

11. The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World by the Dalai Lama and Archbishop Desmond Tutu, with Douglas Abrams

12. Still Life by Sarah Winman 

13. Walden by Henry David Thoreau (Tried to read once but didn't get too far...)

14. Caste: The Origins of Our Discontents by Isabel Wilkerson

15. Georgia: A Novel of Georgia O'Keeffe by Dawn Tripp 

16. Waking up White: Finding Myself in the Story of Race by Debby Irving

17. The Mother of All Dilemmas: Dreams of Motherhood and the Internship that Changed Everything by Kathleen Guthrie Woods

18. Demon Copperhead by Barbara Kingsolver (Read this, now reading Empire of Pain: The Secret History of the Sackler Dynasty by Patrick Radden Keefe to find out more about how the opioid crisis came about)

19. Small Great Things by Jodi Picoult

20. Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction by David Sheff

21. A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose by Eckhart Tolle (listened to this book on cd Walkman while pruning orchards about 20 years ago, over and over again. Maybe I will plan a long drive just to listen to it again) 

22. Option B: Facing Adversity: Building Resilience and Finding Joy, by Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant

23. Lessons In Chemistry by Bonnie Garmus 

24. Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail by Cheryl Strayed

25. The Lincoln Highway By Amor Towles

26. Big Lies in a Small Town by Diane Chamberlain

27. The Reader by Bernhard Schlink

28. A Little Life by Hanya Yanagihara

29. Finding Me by Viola Davis

30. The Warmth of Other Suns: The Epic Story of America's Great Migration by Isabel Wilkerson

31. The Count of Monte Cristo by Alexandre Dumas

32. The Push by Ashley Audrain

33. Just Mercy: A Story of Justice and Redemption by Bryan Stevenson

34. First, We Make the Beast Beautiful: A New Journey Through Anxiety by Sarah Wilson

35. The Short and Tragic Life of Robert Peace: A Brilliant Young Man Who Left Newark for the Ivey League by Jeff Hobbs

36.Women Talking by Miriam Toews

37. Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.

Peace, Health and New Worlds to all

Jeanne

Reacting - Jan 18th 2024

 "Every time you are tempted to react in the same old way, ask if you want to be a prisoner of the past or a pioneer of the future."

Deepak Chopra 

Pooh wisdom - Jan 25th 2024

"If the person you are talking to doesn’t appear to be listening, be patient. It may simply be that he has a small piece of fluff in his ear."

Winnie the Pooh 

Do what's hard - Feb 9th,2024

 

“The most practical skill in life is learning to do things when you don’t feel like doing them. Anyone can do it when it’s easy, but most people drop out the minute it gets hard. The key to life – Do what is hard, not what is easy; with passion, too, not begrudgingly.”

Shane Parrish

Resilience

 "Acceptance doesn't mean resignation; it means understanding that something is what it is and that there's got to be a way through it."

Michael J. Fox

"A hero is someone who, in spite of weakness, doubt or not always knowing the answers, goes ahead and overcomes anyway."
Christopher Reeve

Thoughts: Resilience doesn't start with knowing where its going, it just starts, one small action begins the journey.

Creativity - Jan 11 2024

 "Creativity doesn't wait for that perfect moment. It fashions its own perfect moments out of ordinary ones."

Bruce Garrabrandt (a self taught artist who began with no talent for drawing-  his words)

Thoughts: 

Yay!! The big picture is not so important when we start a project. One little line may seem ordinary by itself, but compounded little lines can become Big Pictures:-)

And if we can accept there is no judgement over what is 'perfect', anything we put effort into can be rewarding, even if we never finish it (thinking of the many projects I have left in various stages)

I watch my grandson building blocks and it always starts with one. And it is always 'perfect' until the crash. And then he laughs and starts over... a lesson for living.

"Creativity is seeing what others see and thinking what no one else ever thought."
Albert Einstein

"Making the simple complicated is commonplace; making the complicated simple, awesomely simple, that's creativity."
Charles Mingus ( an American jazz upright bassist, composer, bandleader, pianist, and author. A major proponent of collective improvisation, he is considered to be one of the greatest jazz musicians)