Wednesday, May 02, 2018

For Ted and Tim's wedding

SIN
I’m here to talk about sin, and I’m choosing to speak about the paradox of sin and beauty.
In the Aramaic Language and culture that Jesus taught in, the terms for "sin" and "evil" were archery terms. When the archer shot at the target and missed the scorekeeper yelled the Aramaic word for sin. It meant that you were off the mark, take another shot. The concept of sin was to be positive mental feedback. Sin is when you are operating from inaccurate information and thus a perceptual mis-take. When you become conscious and aware if the results of your inaccuracy you have the option to reconsider what you have learned and do as they do in Hollywood, "do another take.
The thing about sin is that we acknowledge we do not always do what is right or best for ourselves or our fellow man…however it is about making conscious decisions, choices and living mindful of what is and loving it….
Everything we do, everything we say and everything we think has results. With our intended result it is usually easy to see if we have “hit the target”. Unintended results are more difficult to recognize because, for the most part, they may not appear to affect us directly. This unconsciousness is the sin through which much pain can be caused. The paradox of this is that awakening to the realization of the pain affords great opportunity for beauty and good to arise.
Here are three (very short) stories to illustrate this:
A random shot, fired in a street fight missed its target and hit a five year old girl playing Barbie on her 2nd floor balcony above the street, paralyzing her from the waist down.
Two years later the man is brought to trial. The mother pushes her daughter’s wheelchair into the courtroom and up close to the prisoner. The little girl, who knows more in her innocence and joy about living than many of us will ever understand, looks into the eyes of the man who shot her and says, “I forgive you.”
The man, the street fighter, who until this moment had only known fear and anger broke down and cried in front of the courtroom. He spent his time in prison and beyond helping young men like himself transform their lives.
The Paradox: Miss the target…unintended impact; raised consciousness of something beyond ourselves…true beauty arises.
(There is another sin in this story I can’t pass by, which is the unconscious impact on young girls of having Barbie as a role model)


Second story:
On Sept. 11, 2001 terrorists crashed jetliners into the World Trade Center. We all know the pain that was caused by this action. The intended result … destruction and fear… was achieved. Another result; unintended (I assume) was the wave of kindness and generosity that swelled across the country and the world.
The Paradox: Hit the target…unintended impact; raised consciousness of something beyond ourselves… true beauty arises.

And:
This last story illustrates what I believe to be one of the greatest sins that is happening everyday in our education system and in society.
The story goes: A rabbit, bird, fish, squirrel, duck and so on, all decided to start a school. Everybody sat down to write a curriculum. The rabbit insisted that running had to be in the curriculum. The bird insisted that flying be in the curriculum. The fish insisted that swimming be in the curriculum. The squirrel insisted perpendicular tree climbing be in the curriculum. All the other animals wanted their specialty to be in the curriculum too, so they put everything in and then made the glorious mistake of insisting that all the animals take all of the courses. The rabbit was magnificent in running; nobody could run like the rabbit. But they insisted that it was good intellectual and emotional discipline to teach the rabbit flying. So they insisted the rabbit learn to fly and they put him on this branch and said, “Fly, rabbit!” And the poor old thing jumped off, broke a leg and fractured his skull. He became brain damaged and then he couldn’t run very well either. So instead of an A in running, he got a C in running. And he got a D in flying because he was trying. And the curriculum committee was happy.
The same way with the bird-he could fly like a freak all over the place, do loops and loops, and he was making an A. But they insisted that this bird burrow holes in the ground like a gopher. Of course he broke his wings and his beak and everything else and then he couldn’t fly. But they were perfectly happy to give him a C in flying, and so on. And you know who the Valedictorian of that graduating class was? A mentally retarded eel, because he could do almost everything fairly well.

The unintended impact of this (I assume) is creating a world of mediocrity, a common purpose of conformity and a fear of anyone who is “different”. (George Orwell in 1984, wrote about this, Ayn Rand; The Fountainhead and Atlas Shrugged, Margaret Atwood… there is a huge list of books that project the results of this into a not too distant future.)

The Paradox is that this result causes so much pain in many individuals that they look for another way. There is a rising consciousness and appreciation of the beauty in our differences and the unique abilities of every human being.

Imagine what this world would be like if everyone had the opportunity to be encouraged to be a unique human being.


I’m going end with The Paradoxical Commandments by Kent Keith:
  1. People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
    Love them anyway.

Sin is anything less

  1. If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives.
    Do good anyway.
Sin is anything less

3. If you are successful, you win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.
Sin is anything less

4. The good you do will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.
Sin is anything less

5. Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.
Sin is anything less

6. The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.
Sin is anything less

7. People favour underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.
Sin is anything less

8. What you spent years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.
Sin is anything less

9. People really need help but may attack you if you help them.
Help people anyway.

Sin is anything less

10.Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the best you've got anyway.
Sin is anything less

May you find grace in the face of adversity;
And see the fear behind a critic's eye.
May you embrace love and joy as they're offered;
And give generously of your heart and time.


Sources:

When Ted and Tim asked me to talk about ‘Sin’ at their wedding I was a little lost. I had agreed to speak at the wedding a year ago after Ted and I had our conversation with the turkey in California, and for most of that year I assumed I’d be talking about love. Not more than three weeks before the wedding I pressured them (Ted and Tim, not the turkeys) enough to be specific about what they wanted me to talk about that they gave me the word “sin”. I googled “sin”, then read through masses of stuff until I came to the definition, which talked of sin in a way I related to. Unfortunately I did not save this link. The second paragraph is a direct quote from Ted. (2006)

Everyday I receive a quote by email from an organization called Charity Focus. The email includes a quote, an inspiring story, and a ‘Be the Change’ suggestion.

The story of the little girl who got shot in April this year was from Charity Focus in April. This story stayed with me ever since, I pull it out often when I think about forgiveness. However, now that I have looked it up again I see I have taken liberties with it. The original is even more poignant and beautiful, but forgive me for remembering ‘Barney’ as Barbie.
Here is the direct link to it:

The animal curriculum story is from one of my all time favourite books: Living, Loving and Learning by Leo Buscaglia. It is a series of lectures he gave between 1970 and 1981.

The Paradoxical Commandments I also heard originally from a Charity Focus email.

Here is the link to read an interview with Kent Keith, the author: http://www.bookpage.com/0205bp/kent_keith.html

Thursday, April 26, 2018

Thursday quote Edward Burtynsky

You need to have an inquiring mind. You have to ask questions (…), not accept what is given, but say: “Why is it so?” And it is in that kind of asking that you begin to get behind some of the issues that allow the world appear the way it does. So if you just accept the world the way it is and don’t question it I can’t see how you can go far creatively.” 
– Edward Burtynsky

Edward Burtynsky is known as one of Canada's most respected photographers. His remarkable photographic depictions of global industrial landscapes are included in the collections of over sixty major museums around the world, including the National Gallery of Canada, the Museum of Modern Art and the Guggenheim Museum in New York, the Reina Sofia Museum in Madrid, the Tate Modern in London, and the Los Angeles County Museum of Art in California.
Burtynsky was born in 1955 of Ukrainian heritage in St. Catharines, Ontario. He received his BAA in Photography/ Media Studies from Ryerson University in 1982, and in 1985 founded Toronto Image Works, a darkroom rental facility, custom photo laboratory, digital imaging and new media computer-training centre catering to all levels of Toronto's art community.
Early exposure to the sites and images of the General Motors plant in his hometown helped to formulate the development of his photographic work. His imagery explores the collective impact we as a species are having on the surface of the planet; an inspection of the human systems we've imposed onto natural landscapes. (From: www.edwardburtynsky.com )
World-renowned photographer EDWARD BURTYNSKY creates stunning photos—“reflecting pools of our time”—that explore large-scale social, political, and economic issues, including water, oil, and the upheaval caused by rapid industrialization and climate change. On stage, he talks about the connection between art and social transformation, human nature and consumption, and industry and environment.
“What took out the dinosaurs was a meteor impact … we, the human species, are now that impact. Humans are shifting the balance of the planet, and the choice rests within us to destroy it all, or not.”
— Edward Burtynsky, The New Yorker
Edward Burtynsky’s remarkable photographic depictions of global industrial landscapes are included in the collections of over fifty major museums around the world, including the National Gallery of Canada and the Museum of Modern Art in New York. His life and work are the subjects of the award-winning documentaries Watermark and Manufactured Landscapes, both directed by Jennifer Baichwal, as well as numerous magazine profiles, including The New Yorker. Watermark was awarded the $100,000 Best Canadian Film Award from the Toronto Film Critics Association. His exhibitions, which have all been published as books, include Residual Landscapes, Manufactured Landscapes, Before the Flood, China, Quarries, Australian Minescapes, Oil, and Water.
“I am not out to tell people a unitary story about what they should do to save the earth but, rather, to give people a picture of what it takes to live the way we do.”
— Edward Burtynsky, The New Yorker
Burtynsky’s photos explore the complicated link between industry and nature, combining the raw elements of mining, quarrying, manufacturing, shipping, oil production, and recycling into highly expressive visions that find beauty and humanity in the most unlikely of places. (from: The Lavin Agency Speakers Bureau)

Note from jeanne: we went to see his photographic exhibit at Hamilton Art Gallery yesterday and found his images deeply moving and powerful. The exhibit is on until May 13th and well worth a visit. The blurb from AGH is below. Also, check out his Ted talk if you have a chance.
By starting and continuing a conversation about man's impact and the balance of our activities and their impact Edward Burtynsky is raising awareness of subjects that are too massive to even imagine until we see pictures.
Cheers and Happy Thursday!
Art Gallery of Hamilton
Acclaimed Canadian photographer Edward Burtynsky brings environmental issues to our attention through awe-inspiring and often abstract images that document industrial sites. The photographs are a reflection of our times, and show the complex effects that global manufacturing, and the demands of first world consumers have on the planet. From aerial views of oil fields in Nigeria, to salt pans in India, to Italian Carrara marble quarries and nickel tailings in Sudbury, his stunning large-format photographs made over the past three decades bear sublime witness to the reality of current environmental issues. This exhibition celebrates a recent gift of 76 photographs donated by the artist to the AGH; the largest donation he has made to a museum.
Edward Burtynsky’s distinctions include the TED Prize and the Governor General’s Awards in Visual and Media Arts. In 2006 he was awarded Officer of the Order of Canada and currently holds seven honorary doctorate degrees. Burtynsky lives and works in Toronto and is represented by Nicholas Metivier Gallery in Toronto.

Friday, April 21, 2017

Starting with DFW ending with Gratitude

Exciting discovery Announcement!!! 
An author who puts into words I can understand my thoughts that I cannot put into words:   David Foster Wallace

This week's quotes were DFW as well
“The really important kind of freedom involves attention, and awareness, and discipline, and effort, and being able truly to care about other people and to sacrifice for them, over and over, in myriad petty little unsexy ways, every day.
That is real freedom. 
That is being taught how to think.
The alternative is unconsciousness, the default setting, the "rat race" — the constant, gnawing sense of having had and lost some infinite thing.”
David Foster Wallace

“Mediocrity is contextual.” 

David Foster Wallace
Infinite Jest

I am trying to avoid reading all of the unfettered political ranting and never ending torrents of advertising drivel that clog my electronic devices every time I wake them up. Fortunately, every now and then I see something that is worth a look and occasionally a read. These random reminders that there are a few voices speaking out that make sense on a reasonable common sense level reassure me that there are people in the world who are more than shells for squirming pain bodies that are spewing toxic infectious splatter and creating an epidemic of fear. (Collective and individual "pain bodies" from Eckhart Tolle's A New Earth)

Elizabeth Warren, Democratic Senator for Massachusetts from an election speech in replying to the charge that asking the rich to pay more taxes is "class warfare", by pointing out that no one grew rich in the U.S. without depending on infrastructure paid for by the rest of society, stating:[59][60]
"There is nobody in this country who got rich on his own. Nobody. ... You moved your goods to market on the roads the rest of us paid for; you hired workers the rest of us paid to educate; you were safe in your factory because of police forces and fire forces that the rest of us paid for. You didn't have to worry that marauding bands would come and seize everything at your factory, and hire someone to protect against this, because of the work the rest of us did. Now look, you built a factory and it turned into something terrific, or a great idea. God bless. Keep a big hunk of it. But part of the underlying social contract is, you take a hunk of that and pay forward for the next kid who comes along." 
(I followed a random trail to find the above on Wikipedia)


I live in a park!





One of my amazing workspaces.
It is very hard to believe the insanity in the rest of the world when I am blessed to be surrounded with beauty and peace. My dream kitchen... where I sit to read, write, dream, talk to Alex and Morgan, cook for anybody and everybody and mostly for joy, dance and sing, get over my petty ego issues, cry and shout when I'm pissed off, drink wine, have a couple puffs, be stupid and go very deeply philosophical on the meaning of ...

Daffodils in Aunt Edith's green reed jug Edith is the "e" in alejamo
She lived in this house for 23 years. 
I have now lived here for 26 years.
Ain't life funny!! That is 49 years of daffodils and I'd guess a minimum of 100 books read a year so 4900 books read looking out over Lake Ontario and the lights of Burlington. 
I am living a dream and I have no idea how or why I have been so lucky but I am overflowing with 

GRATITUDE







Thursday, April 13, 2017

Quotes that make me feel like I may not be completely crazy

“A lie gets halfway around the world before the truth has a chance to get its pants on.” 
― Winston S. Churchill

“...logical validity is not a guarantee of truth.” 
from his book; Infinite Jest







                                        Belize meditation





I have just discovered David Foster Wallace because we are going to our next Books on Film movie Monday night at Toronto International Film Festival (TIFF) Monday night and the film is End of the Tour and there to discuss it will be David Lipsky. The film is about David Foster Wallace and David Lipsky where DFW is on a book promoting tour for his novel "Infinite Jest" and DL is a writer for Rolling Stone magazine who has joined him for the last five days. This is the first time that DFW's writing has entered my conscious mind and, while i will probably never read his book (1000 plus pages) I am amazed and quickly becoming addicted to his quotes! 
Like this one:

“Learning how to think" really means learning how to exercise some control over how and what you think.
It means being conscious and aware enough to choose what you pay attention to and to choose how you construct meaning from experience.
Because if you cannot or will not exercise this kind of choice in adult life, you will be totally hosed.” 
― David Foster WallaceThis Is Water: Some Thoughts, Delivered on a Significant Occasion, about Living a Compassionate Life

Thursday, March 09, 2017

Buddha said it best!

Today's quote

“There is nothing more dreadful than the habit of doubt. Doubt separates people. It is a poison that disintegrates friendships and breaks up pleasant relations. It is a thorn that irritates and hurts; it is a sword that kills.” – Buddha

Wednesday, February 22, 2017

What is integrity??

I spent the whole evening crafting a letter that probably no one will read.
Where do we have a voice? 
When is the voice of reason going to be heard?
When are compassion, empathy, caring, respect going to be considered more important that personal gain, protecting our material stuff, and fear that if we care for others there will be less for us?
I want a country that will stand up for human rights and not be afraid of the economic or social consequences. Because that is how we are taught to be with bullies. We have friends that will be there if we do and it will give others the courage to stand up too.
This is Leadership!!! Why does no one in government see it/ or more importantly act on it??? If all they care about is being re elected there is going to be no country left to re elect them and they will be merely puppets of the USA. Who's population needs us to be strong and stand up as well! Oh my goodness this is crazy

Dear Prime Minister Trudeau,

There are so many good things we as a country are doing for refugees and suffering people! But our immigration and refugee policies, anti Islamophobia movement, taking in new people and all of our compassion and integrity are at risk of being moot if we do not take action and rescind the "Safe Third Country Agreement" now! 

We cannot win against a bully by appeasement that sacrifices values. Canadians need a stand NOW! Otherwise we will divide ourselves and eat ourselves up over the little battles. The longer it takes to make that stand the more divisive it will be for us, and this is your governments responsibility. It will need to happen, please let us be strong enough to be proactive and not wait until we have no choice.

This is about basic human dignity and respect. This is about being a person with a heart and soul. It is not about politics or economics but about the world our children are going to have to live in. Standard of living means nothing if we do it on the backs of the suffering people that we pretend are not our responsibility.

We have an opportunity to stand up and be the Canada that we as Canadians, along with the rest of the world, believed us to be. This is more important than short term economics and politics. This goes beyond all the what ifs and its not been proven yets... This is the basic right of all people to live without fear of persecution. 

People are suffering and we can do something! Is this not an opportunity to be the country we say we are? Are we going to be the complicit silent neighbour?? That will not be respected ever and once this regime is over will show us as fickle, manipulated hypocrites. It would be easier to be Mexico right now.

I will be hiding my Canadian flag when I travel if we continue to support US as a "Safe Third Country" until their current policies are rescinded. (If travel is safe at all in the future as a 'only look after ourselves' means we cannot expect others to respect or protect our rights and freedoms when we step off our soil)

This is of the most urgent nature, we are a last bastion of hope for desperate people and if we can only find a way to get past our fear and open our doors then it sends the message to other people that there is another way. Sweden and the few other countries that are opening doors need us to stand up! The fence sitters and everyone else who feels their voice is not heard needs us to stand up. 

To do nothing is to support to the current Republican government's views on equal rights.

Saturday morning

Finished reading Reluctant Genius, the biography of Alexander Graham Bell by Charlotte Gray. I recommend it as an excellent read. I had no idea of the range of interests and imagination of Bell's min

Ubterestubg

Just found my blog again - more than a year later. wow!

Thursday, September 15, 2016

Today's quote. And why is it that everything has to be judged and isn't considered marvelous for its different qualites????


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Thursday, April 07, 2016

and the years go by

This week's quote:
I must learn to love the fool in me - the one who feels too much, talks too much, takes too many chances, wins sometimes and loses often, lacks self-control, loves and hates, hurts and gets hurt, promises and breaks promises, laughs and cries. Theodore Isaac Rubin
Read more at: http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/t/theodoreis618045.html?src=t_promises

Was just thinking about promises and how easy it is to mean them at the moment of speaking them and then modify them or justify not doing them later. Some of them should not have been made in the first place, just my mouth opening for the wrong reason at the wrong time... but others, well, I feel there are some apologies I should be making to those I promised things... myself included!

This week's picture; the mighty oak leaned too far


Thursday, March 12, 2015

today

Hello Blog,
 A  lot has happened since I posted Apache Blessing.
In the moment I am ensconced on my couch looking out at the city lights listening to Classic Rock, drinking wine and thinking that despite this broken leg and everything else going on I'm doing okay!

Wednesday, May 21, 2014

Apache Blessing

May the sun bring you new energy by day, 
may the moon softly restore you by night, 
may the rain wash away your worries, 
may the breeze blow new strength into your being, 
may you walk gently through the world and 
know it's beauty all the days of your life.
 - Apache Blessing

Monday, March 31, 2014

Magic Mondays

there's something about Monday's... that I'm not going to let happen anymore... the Misery Attack.

Doing the math based on a random life span of 76 years of which I am now midway through my 57th year so we have a nice round number of 20 years to calculate. 
20 years x 52 weeks is  1040 Mondays 

So lets say 1000 Mondays, because we like round numbers, that is 1000 days, 1/7th of the total 7000 of my ever shortening allotment of days to live in this particular body, in this story, on this level of spiritual evolution,  and really just to have fun, be fulfilled as a person as a woman, all that shit that I really thought was more like tens of thousands of days away
For a random exercise: 76 x 365 = 27,740 days of that earthly life is definitely in the 5 digits for 64% of that life. so I am well into the last 36.04542% of my days (given that 76 years, which I might be re-evaluating as my random life span when I do this exercise when I am in my 66th year. Which in itself is interesting because at that point I will have lived longer than my mother. And heaven forbid something happens to me before then because i have not got my shit together and there's a lot of stuff around here I'd rather deal with than have my kids have to sort through...

Sooo... this is the first of the next 1000 Magic Mondays!
Starting my list of how to make Monday's magic:
1. Start with 5 minutes walking with the earbuds and something loud that makes me walk faster and then even if I only go that 5 minutes I haven't procrastinated but tonight I kept going to Rod Stewart's "Downtown Train" and I don't even care if the cars driving by had a window open and heard me. I think that CCR and ACDC would work really well for this too...* to do: create a Monday music playlist.
2.  Here's another thing, I usually feel that Monday i should only eat healthy, right after any weekend indulgence and dealing with my body issues (that I really don't want to stress over for my estimated 7000 more days( if I live to 96 I'm back into the 14,000 day range and that would be just ridiculous to waste time seeing only my bellyfat in the mirror and wondering how I can wring out my wine indulged liver start over, cumulative effects are the worst to think about) But this is not working for me... so here's tonight's dinner; potatoes and salad! and yes, wine on Monday makes me happy and that's the magic plain and simple.

here's the potatoes that did it for me
2 potatoes
olive oil
parmesan
rosemary
sea salt
And a great kitchen gadget that slices the potatoes really thinly

and then the salad, one of my staples
Whatever greens are in the fridge tonight was romaine and kale. I rubbed the kale, which is definitely worth doing!
Some kind of onions, i had some green onions which is a treat this time of year. Has to have avocado then some sweet pepper and a few dried cranberries for fun.
Dressing:
juice of 1 lemon
tbsp dijon
tbsp white balsamic
tbsp or maybe 2 honey
olive oil
maybe some s and p 
shake or whisk together, dip leaves in it and taste until you get the combo that makes your taste buds jump for joy.
3. While I was looking for the perfect potato recipe for my mood tonight i was following random threads on Pinterest and discovered my sister's gardening pins which are exactly the kinds of things I would pin and 
Easy composting. Great microbial activity, promotes earthworms. so now i'm in that happy place I'm going to put this Monday to bed with my bookclub book that I need to finish for this Thursday's meeting.


Thursday, January 02, 2014

Happy 2014

A New Year to:

Love more
Laugh more
Believe in me more
Risk more
Play more
Work more
Live in the Light!

It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare; It is because we do not dare that they are difficult.
-Seneca

Sunday, March 10, 2013

Thanks


"Really great people make you feel that you, too, can become great."


Thanks to all the really Great People!!!