Thursday, September 05, 2019

Embrace the Mess! Nora Ephron

“My mother didn’t serve Yorkshire pudding, although there is a recipe for it on page 61 of ‘The Gourmet Cookbook.’ My mother served potato pancakes instead. I serve Yorkshire pudding and potato pancakes. Why not? You live once.” 
Nora Ephron
 
Our book for bookclub last week was "I Feel Bad About my Neck" by Nora Ephron. This is a quote from it. Laura, our host, served us Champagne and a delicious dinner with two Gourmet mains:-) We discussed the book and the very interesting author (see below) which naturally led to discussing our own lives and defining events and circumstances. In a lifetime of living we go through so many transformations, and what we thought knew about life when we were 20, 30 or  even 40 seems a mere iota compared to what we don't know at 50 and 60 and I am sure this will continue to 70, 80 and beyond. I love this quote about  serving Yorkshire pudding and potato pancakes, because it makes me wonder about limits we assume. What I mean is described well by Nora Ephron in her 1996 commencement speech at Wellesly College 
"This is the season when a clutch of successful women -- who have it all -- give speeches to women like you and say, to be perfectly honest, you can't have it all. Maybe young women don't wonder whether they can have it all any longer, but in case of you are wondering, of course you can have it all. What are you going to do? Everything, is my guess. It will be a little messy, but embrace the mess. It will be complicated, but rejoice in the complications. It will not be anything like what you think it will be like, but surprises are good for you. And don't be frightened: you can always change your mind. I know: I've had four careers and three husbands." 
Best advice ever "Embrace the mess and rejoice in the complications", it is liberating!!
Cheers
Jeanne

About Nora Ephron 
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https://www.biography.com/writer/nora-ephron 

Nora Ephron was born on May 19, 1941 in New York City. Her essays initially grabbed attention in the early 1970s, and by the 1980s, she began to transition into screenwriting. Ephron wrote the screenplay for the romantic comedy classic When Harry Met Sally. Later, she wrote and directed Sleepless in Seattle, You’ve Got Mail and Julie & Julia (2009).

The daughter of writers, she grew up in Los Angeles, feeling much like an outsider. She went east to go to school at Wellesley College in Massachusetts. Gifted with a sharp wit, Ephron first made her mark as an essayist. In 1970, her articles collected and published in 1970's Wallflower at the Orgy and 1975's Crazy Salad. Her first novel, Heartburn (1983), drew inspiration from the end of her second marriage and was later made into a film starring Meryl Streep and Jack Nicholson.

Around this time, Ephron made the leap into films, writing the screenplay for the drama Silkwood (1983). It earned her an Academy Award nomination for Best Screenplay. While that film received much praise, she really hit box office gold with her screenplay for When Harry Met Sally, starring Billy Crystal and Meg Ryan in the title roles. Audiences and critics alike responded enthusiastically to the well-crafted exploration into whether a man and a woman can be just friends and the relationship that develops between the lead characters. She received her second Academy Award nomination for Best Screenplay for this engaging, humorous film.

In 1992, Ephron directed her first film, This Is My Life. The film was generally well-received, with Time magazine calling it a "charming and quietly confident movie" that is both "adorable and unsentimental." This family drama centered on a single mother who is pursuing a career in stand-up comedy. Ephron co-wrote the screenplay with her sister, Delia Ephron.

The next year, Ephron directed and wrote the wildly successful Sleepless in Seattle, which featured Meg Ryan and Tom Hanks as two people who live on opposite coasts and fall in love after Ryan hears Hanks on the radio and tracks him down. The film earned more than $120 million at the box office, once again showing Hollywood that Ephron was a formidable filmmaker. She also scored her third Academy Award nomination for Best Screenplay.

Ryan and Hanks reunited for another Ephron film, 1998's You've Got Mail, which played the romantic possibilities created on the anonymity of the Internet. The two played business rivals who don't know that they had become friends online. The two opposing relationships unfold during the course of the film. Many critics remarked on the dynamic chemistry between the lead actors. In addition to serving as the director on the film, Ephron co-wrote the screenplay with her sister, Delia.

Ephron's 2005 film effort, Bewitched, failed to strike a chord with movie audiences. In 2006, she returned to her essayist roots with I Feel Bad about My Neck: And Other Thoughts on Being a Woman, offering her readers a comic look at aging and other issues.

In 2009, Ephron received wide acclaim for directing and writing Julie & Julia, a comedy about the lives of famed chef Julia Child and a young, aspiring cook. The film starred actresses Amy Adams and Meryl Streep (Julia Child), and earned nearly $130 million at the box office.

Ephron died from pneumonia, caused by acute myeloid leukemia, on June 26, 2012, at the age of 71. She was survived by her husband of nearly 25 years, screenwriter Nicholas Pileggi; and her two sons, Jacob and Max Bernstein, from her previous marriage to journalist Carl Bernstein, her second husband (Ephron's first marriage was to Dan Greenburg).

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